LADIES
SHOULD ALSO HAVE A CHOICE
Are we held captive by our culture to the extent
that we cannot think for ourselves? Some socially constructed roles should be
treated with an open mind and not followed as if they are part of the Ten
Commandments.
I was listening to a local F.M station and the hosts
were talking about who is supposed to make the first move between a man and a
woman. Responses from callers were shocking to me. Many were of the opinion
that it is the man who should initiate such moves and not the woman. And that
it is very imprudent of a lady to approach a man in the name of starting a
relationship.
I thought hard about this and could not understand
why it should be the man and not woman to do so. Are we so closed and rigid in
our minds that we cannot allow civilization to weed out some redundant cultural
norms?
In biology we are told that all human beings possess
the same emotions and feelings to mate or be in a relationship. Where has it
been told that the feelings of a man should override that of a woman? There is
no place for such assertions and so we should be free to let one exercise what
he or she feels to be right. If you like somebody do not hold yourself, go
ahead and express your feelings lest someone take him away from you.
Can this rigidity be the reason why infidelity is so
rampant in our society today? When a woman is not given the chance to choose
the person she thinks her heart beats for, it can lead to many complications.
Some women have a man they would really love to spend their lives with but due
to cultural dictates, they are afraid to approach them. They fear being seen as
prostitutes as our society thinks that it is only prostitutes who approach
men. This makes some women to agree to
advances from men they would not live with for a lifetime due to pressure of
age catching up with them or because their mates have been married.
Imagine if a woman married a man she wanted with all
her mind and heart. It would make her content with him and not go out to look
for what she is missing and would have wanted to have. I think this would
reduce cases of a woman having more than one partner at the same time.
This situation according to me is also a cause of
many single women in the society. Men fear women who have made it in the society
and at the same time these women also fear approaching men as the society
discourages this. This leads to many successful women remaining single for the
rest of their lives.
I think this should be the time for us to be open-minded
and allow our ladies also have the chance to choose what they relish. Let the
man also have the chance to vet a woman who approaches him if they mean good or
not, whether they are in it for money or for love.
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