A
PASTOR’S GUIDE TO A GOOD WIFE
My pastor last Saturday delivered a powerful sermon.
It was a sermonette to be precise. It was as short as a mini skirt yet long
enough to cover the essential details. He was talking about relationships and
marriage at large. Rather than lead by example, he was the example. He gave us
his story while in university in the form of this anecdote.
“While at the university, I was doing a programme
known as work-study. It involves working for the school while studying. I was
cleaning toilet and attending to school farm. I was weather beaten and not
smartly dressed. I was called toilet man. I never had a girlfriend as no girl
would date a toilet cleaner. After completing my university, I joined Karura where
one day I met a lady who gave me a chance. After a while I had turned around my
life and was now wearing suits. Some other girls who avoided me like a plague
while in the university came streaming back. My head was turned a bit but when
I examined myself I said I belong to the one who loved me when I was nobody.
The girl is now my wife,” he said cutting a long story short.
After this heart retching story, he gave us an
example from the Bible of the parameters to follow when choosing a wife. The story
was of Isaac. When Isaac was of age Abraham set out to search for a bride who
matched his son. He put down four markers to consider before settling on a wife
for his son.
First was character. The mental and moral qualities
distinctive to an individual and can be used in the identification of the
person is what we call character. A lady has to be of good character to be made
a wife. If she is the one who people sigh when describing then she is not fit
to be one. The one you are told to marry at your own risk or ‘just marry her
maybe you can change her.’ She has to be of irreproachable and unquestionable
morals. The one men fear to approach because they know she is not a matatu to
be boarded at will. She must respect her body as it is a temple of the Lord and
must also respect her husband.
Personality was his second parameter. Personality
has to deal with individual differences among people in behavior patterns, cognition
and emotion. Is her personality rubbing people off or contagious? A woman has
to be of admirable personality one that people want to model their children
after. She has to be determined, hardworking and witty. She has to be able to build her home and
elevate it higher among the many. She must possess a big heart to welcome any
visitor as this is a blessing.
Third was family background. When Rebecca brought
water to Isaac he was pleased but he wanted to know more. He asked her whose
daughter she was. When she said she was the daughter of Bethuel, Isaac bowed
low and praised the Lord. Bethuel was known all over for his welcoming heart
and strictness. A lady’s background matters a lot. She must be from a family
that is known for their good deeds not bad ones lest you marry a woman who will
turn you into a thief, witch or night runner.
Religious faith came in fourth. A woman should
profess the same religion as her man. It matters a lot as there are
circumstances where religion will bring differences. You should all either be
Christians or Muslims. She must also be ready to follow you in case of one
being a protestant and the other a catholic.
These were the guiding principles that led Isaac to
Rebecca. She was from a far away land. We have not seen Abraham mentioning
factors like tribe, financial stability, good looks and the other infatuations
that this new generation is occupied with.
He ended the sermon by urging all men and women to
love their partners in better and bad times. To the youths he urged them to use
the four above guidelines and they will never go wrong.
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